Do you realize that there have been studies that show conservatives donate a much larger percent of their income to charity than do liberals. I don't think the issue conservatives have with social programs has anything to do with "muh paycheck" as you put it. The issue comes down to what is appropriate for the Federal Government to be doing in a society built around the concept individual liberty. Many don't believe it is appropriate for the Federal Government to take money for anything outside of the operation of the government itself. In other words, in a free society, each person should get to choose what they want to do with their money and who they want to give it to. The government has dibs on what they need to operate, but not on who we choose to donate to. If citizens don't have that right, then we aren't really free. The government can ultimately decide to tax for the purpose of anything they choose and coerce any behavior they want.
It’s why we should research the policies and past interviews of who we vote for, then (attempt to) hold them accountable while they’re in office. Social welfare programs are here to stay, in one capacity or another. Vote for whoever best aligns with your views and hope they don’t fall prey to donors and special interest groups.