It became our position when our money became involved.I think this is argument is flawed. The war has caused economic hardship not just here, but globally. Unless you really think munitions manufacturers have a grip on the levers of power, the kind of stuff we're sending isn't high-end, big ticket items that the defense industrial complex would drool about replacing. To you and the other Putin appeaseniks in this thread who have called for a cessation of hostilities and peace talks, I think you should take notice of Russia's reaction to the recent Saudi Arabian-led peace talks, including the participation of its ally China.
https://www.cnn.com/2023/08/07/middleeast/saudi-arabia-ukraine-talks-china-mime-intl/index.html
The Russians aren't interested in peace. And frankly, it's not your or anyone's else's position to tell the Ukrainian people whether they want to continue to fight or not.
What could you possibly be thinking to suggest otherwise?