I guess I'm a bad father. 22 years old is still very much a kid. I have ZERO problem with the dad being too involved. If anything a lot of kids could use a whole lot more of that...unless their dad is named lavar.
VT's Kerry Blackshear enters transfer portal
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Well, you also haven't been in Kerry's position either. This is different....check that, WAY different than when you applied for a job at McDonald's at 22 years old. This is a decision that could not only affect the rest of Kerry's life, but it affects his family's life too. This decision could make or break this kids financial future. Make the wrong decision and end up in the G league or overseas. Make the right decision and sign a huge contract in the NBA and possibly be a long term player.
If you don't understand the situation Kerry and his family are currently in, then you're just ignorant.
This isn't the type of decision you 100% leave up to the kid, he is obviously tight with his parents and it should be a process that they go through together.
Not to mention, Kerry is going through the NBA stuff right now and is probably a little busy. Did you ever think of that?
Did you ever have a decision to make that could potentially grant you life changing money? At 22 years old? I bet not.
You're pretty damn opinionated about this. Maybe if you knew the family you would think differently.
The bottom line is you don't know the family and I bet that you have never been in this situation.
So you obviously don't agree with the father being this involved in his sons life changing decision and are having trouble dealing with it.
Just say you would handle it differently and move on.
Who made you the authority on how family's should behave?
I have no problem with his dad offering advice or being involved. I have an issue with his dad controlling it when he is 22. If this is common why can no one point to another instance of similarity? Did your dad do your job applications and interviews for you at 22? Of course not because no one would hire you. Hell, my dad didn't even do that at 15 when I started working and I was a minor.
If he was a pro, do you think his franchise would want their dad managing the player and telling them what will and won't be acceptable or impressive to him and his son?
Parents could and should give advice and support. They should not manage and control it for you at 22 years old.
You all seem to really struggle with the differences between them. Must be a generational thing.
Who has said anything about how his family should behave? I said he needs to be handling his own situation at 22 and not letting his daddy call the shots and say what will or wont be acceptable to him and his son. Do you really not understand the difference?
The funny part is when he gets told to go somewhere else by his dad, most of you will be here bitching about how these kids needs to make their own decisions and not be influenced by their parents. It's like clockwork.
Why is it even bothering you ? Seem like you are making a mountain out of a mole hill. What he and his father does is between them and is no one else business.
I wouldn't really say I am the one bothered by it. I just brought it up and get jumped all over by several people on here for even suggesting it. I just mentioned I don't think we will get too involved until KB himself reaches out and shows he is making his own decisions.
His dad made it everyone business when he publicly came out and said what would be acceptable and viewed as positive by him and his son. Not a single mention of what his son wanted for himself.
Would you really want Lavar Ball 2.0. Do you remember instances where Cal pandered to the needs, wants and demands of parents?
How do you know the dad is completely controlling it? That's your inference based on a piecemeal quote.
"His dad made it everyone business when he publicly came out and said what would be acceptable and viewed as positive by him and his son. Not a single mention of what his son wanted for himself."
So telling the media what would be viewed as positive by his son is not the same thing and telling them what his son wants for himself?
You seem to have problems with about everything.
Just to be clear- this is hardly over. He’ll go thru the draft process first- something which may help Cats chances, as it provides more time to make in-roads. I haven’t yet heard of visits.
But as of now, Florida and pro options are front running. And in that order.
I'm guessing the player himself is happy with his dad fielding a lot of the calls. Most young men look up to their fathers and look to them for guidance. The fact that his dad is helping him is nothing to be annoyed at or upset with.
It doesn't mean anything negative about the kid or his family.
A lot of kids probably have people go through their family.
I agree with @Son_Of_Saul that the narrative is being pre-formed. If he doesn't come here "Good! His dad was the next Lavar Ball!"
When in reality, his dad is a normal dad who wants what's best for his son.
I walked into this thread on page 13. I think I'll see myself out.....
I can't speak specifically for the guy you're quoting, but I can assure you some will deflect the narrative if UK doesn't land Blackshear to something along these lines, "We didn't want a control freak dad around UK anyway."
We can't ever have an incident where UK failed to actually land the final piece to a title team. Can't have that. Nike paid Carey and Zion and Barrett; Penny manipulated Wiseman; friendship ties cost us Lewis, Bridges, etc.
If Blackshear goes elsewhere, the running narrative will be that it was because "Cal saw the warning signs and didn't want to poison the program by associating with Kerry's dad" or something close to that line of reasoning.
“Does not move me. Or move him. They can say, ‘You’re the missing piece for us,’ but are they the missing piece for him?” If Cats want him, need to outline a clear plan."
He simply emphasized that neither he nor his All-ACC son will faint at the sight of a UK logo. That they're approaching this decision very deliberately.
This is the quotes his dad gave. I didn't really peace meal them.
If you notice he always emphasizes himself first, not his son. That is very telling of who is in charge of this.
Why does it need to be viewed by positive to him at all if it's Kerry's ultimate decision? It's not his life, it's his 22 yo sons. He always mentions himself first and Kerry second. That literally proves who is the main concern in this.
I don't think nor have said they are a bad family. I just question his fathers statements and why so much is up to how his fathers views things. He always mentions Kerry second as if what he wants is an afterthought.
It's very odd to say the least.
I'm 46, if I ran into this scenario, I would get my family together and hash it out and discuss what my best option is. Know why? Because if done right, my immediate family will never work again.
At 22, you better believe I would have involved my father and I certainly wouldn't mind it if he took control. Life hasn't kicked your ass enough at 22 to handle something like this.
Hate on the kid all you want, but there is nothing wrong with Kerry's dad taking control here, for all you know, he could be some sort of coach or financial advisor.
You said:
"Who has said anything about how his family should behave?"
Then you said:
"He needs to be handling his own situation at 22 years old"
At this point, I stopped reading. Do you see the problem that the rest of us see?
Who has said he should not dsicuss with his family. I even encouraged it, but they shouldnt be handling the process and making the decision, talking to coaches and media. They certainly shouldn't be saying publicly what they will fine satisfactory. At 22 years old your family shouldnt be calling the shots unless you're too immature or lack the confidence. Which points to a problem if so.
Big difference between the 2. Do you not see the problem there?
As you should, but would you have you pops fill out your applications and field your interviews? Would you have him list the places you should work and that he feels are acceptable for you? Do you feel like you would have much success?
If you played for the NBA, would you want your dad calling up the coaches and front office telling them what is and isn't acceptable, impressive or is going to fly? How would you expect them to respond?
Figures you just couldn't come up with anything. I guess I made you butthurt in another thread and now you're disgruntled. So sorry
.Nice. Rustled.Figures you just couldn't come up with anything. I guess I made you butthurt in another thread and now you're disgruntled. So sorry
Interesting how you change someone else's post to fit your narrative. Sorry you don't have the intelligence to carry on a discussion without changing someones reply. Wow.
22 year olds in the NBA are represented by agents and managers. His dad is acting in a similar capacity at the college level. Not that hard to understand.
Agents are licensed with years of experience. They also work on behalf of the players and what they want. You don't hear agents say what will and won't be acceptable to them first and their players second. They always mention their players as the primary interest and decison maker.
KB's dad always mentions himself first and what he wants. Then Kerry comes second. That's very telling about who is handling things. If he was an NBA players and his dad was doing this, how do you think franchises would respond? How did the Lakers handle Lavar?
Can you think of other grad transfers handled this way?
It wasn’t the media but I said different it was his actual dad who said no one from UK has reached out.
It was your words and meaning. I just made it more upfront for you.
Don't go and melt away on me. I am having too much fun with you.
Evidently mutual intersted has been shown between the 2 but just not directly yet.
You have been rustled. Easy to see when you have to start changing someone else's post. Nice try though.
Got your dander up because a dad wants to be involved with decisions his 22 year old kid makes. Wow.
Exactly. I don’t know what’s wrong with some people who think a 22 year old is. 40 year old. How many 22 year old college kids don’t have their parents helping or making big decisions for them especially when their dad is a former college and pro player so he knows exactly what he’s talking about.
