The Civil war was bad for families in this area. My great grandfather's two brothers lived in what was then called Elko, KY (in Mammoth Cave National Park). They left the same day for the Civil War. One went to Nashville to join the CSA and one went to Owensboro to join the Union. John Jack (the Union guy) told his brother that the next time "I will see you will be over the barrel of a gun". They survived the war and came back home and built houses next to each other. They just did not discuss the war.
My second great grandfather, David M.C. Edwards joined the 6th Reg. CSA and fought at Shiloh, Vicksburg, Baton Rouge, Chickamauga, Atlanta and Savannah. Late in the war he was wounded so badly that the Union forces sent him to Owensboro via barge and released him to his family. After the war he found life as a Confederate soldier too hard in Kentucky, so he told his wife he was going to Utah to get a place and he would send for her. He never was heard from again and there are no records that he ever got to Utah.
Two thirds of Kentuckians joined the Union; however, after the war Kentucky was treated like we had succeeded. One of my Union ancestors came home to fine that the Union Army had burned his house, stole all the stock and left his family destitute and depending on others for food and housing. Plus there are some horrible stories during the war of the Union forces taking people away and no one ever hearing from them again.
Please don't take my word for it:
17. Another reign of terror. - In 1864 the deeds of cruelty and outrage on the part of some Federal officers elevated to power in Kentucky produced a terror among the people equal to that caused by the raiding guerrillas. Chief among the men who were guilty of these inhuman deeds were generals high in official authority and in command both in East and West Kentucky. Under orders of these, many prisoners, without trial, were taken out of their prison-houses, led away and shot to death by squads of soldiers. Many peaceful citizens were arrested and cast into prison, and heavy sums of money extorted from some of them under military duress. The pretexts for these acts were usually alleged to be retaliation for the outrages of the guerrillas. Often the innocent suffered.
This is from "History of Kentucky" 1891. They will not tell you stuff like that today, it reflect poorly on the victors.