He sent His Son who was tortured, beaten, tormented, and ultimately crucified on your behalf...to make up for all the terrible things you have done in your life. That should be you up on that cross, but Jesus did it for you. Sacrifice is the ultimate act of love.It’s difficult to comprehend because you keep describing your god as loving, kind and just. If he loved me, why would he allow me to be tortured for eternity for the “sin” of not loving him back? That is not loving, nor kind, and damn sure not just. Quite the opposite of those qualities. It’s abusive.
Instead of complaining non stop about the horrors of hell, why don't you just place your faith in what Christ did for you and admit your need for a Savior? Then hell becomes irrelevant and you can focus on the joys of building your relationship with God.
You can't just go through life sinning daily and not expect to be held accountable for it at some point, can you? There are billions of people who think they can cheat the person next to them, or cheat on their spouse, lie perpetually, steal, get away with rape or murder (because they were never caught), and the list goes on and on...and think they will never be held accountable for that. Of course they will...