BUT...since you took the time to pick apart my answer-which is fine, I enjoyed reading your responses-you left out the biggest single question. Actually you opened up another comensurate questionL
A: If your kids choose to walk away from you of their own free will, is threatening them with the worst possible torture-FOR ETERNITY-is actually letting them act of their own free will.
B: You said you would die for your kids. I believe you. I would guess you're an upstanding, compassionate father, and good role model who would pay the ultimate price for his children (that's not being sarcastic btw). So the you question you didn't answer was "could you under any circumstance sentence them to the worst possible torture/punishment-FOR ETERNITY-for walking away from you?" I think we already know the answer. My guess is you'll probably say something about God's morality, but I don't want to put words in your mouth. This is a morality that I can't wrap my mind around, and if this is the truth, I personally have no choice but to find it evil, no matter how hard I try to explain it away.t.
First, we will be judged. I will not be the judge. The judge is a holy God and how He judges will not be subject to debate. Even someone who does not believe can conceive of that on some level, while none of us can truly comprehend true holiness.
Second, I don’t know how God will judge you or me. I just know He has given us both a save. I realize most atheists see themselves as good, but as you learn more about good and evil, that is a hard case to make. I know I need a savior when it comes to judgment. HE went to the cross for both us.
Third, because we have a savior and our judge is holy, the people who are not resurrected to an eternal life with God will have made that choice. How all that goes down is above all of our pay grades, but scripture does not suggest it is in anyway arbitrary or capricious.
It would give me great sadness, as Jesus wept over death in scripture, but if my kids chose not to be with me in eternity, it won’t be because our Heavenly Father was unjust. He is the founder of justice. There is no justice but that which He ordains.
Sorry for the Christianese, but I only have a second to respond.
And, the concept of free will is too deep for a quick answer. You, however, (apparently from your responses) don’t work from the filter of a just God. It’s one of the most repeated comments in scripture. I believe God is just. I don’t overlook that repeated fact. So, if you start from the principle that God is just and is holy and is faithful and is steadfast, you cannot come to your conclusions, but must rethink your own conclusions. If you overlook those promises, then you can come to any conclusion you desire.