If you actually want to understand what happened in Colorado, read the transcript of his interview with the police. It can be found online easily enough. Here's the brief version of the "best case scenario" for Kobe.
He picked up a girl.
He had sex with her.
He requested to complete the process on her person in a way that offended her. She refused.
He may or may not have tried to do it anyway.
He admitted to having a regular woman on the side in LA who was ok with his preferred method of finishing.
He was at least as worried about his endorsements as he was his wife and daughter.
I personally do not think he raped her, but the whole situation is pretty sordid. He was a great player but far from a class act. (Of course, that characteristic is not unique to him among the all time NBA greats.)