First, I want to say thank you to everyone here, everyone who took time to give advice, money and prayers. Everyone has a lot going on right now and to take time to help someone who is a fellow fan, still warms my heart beyond belief.
So to start, I'm gonna explain how you guys literally, saved me in a couple ways:
First, as you guys know my finances were exhausted and I could've never anticipated the generous people on here. We were able to buy groceries and supplies to survive, as well as lunches for her new job.
That's right, she got a job!!! Unfortunately, it wasn't with our friend here, she went to the interview but it appeared they were more in setting up mode, in this area. He did hire her but I guess he got busy with things and she didn't receive the follow up call. She happened to get a return call, from a job that does the same thing locally. So she is now taking care of sick people, with multiple disabilities which is very rewarding to her. She has already gotten several certifications and feels proud of what she is doing (which makes my heart warm up, to see her have some joy, when we have had tough times). So she has been working, we are waiting on her first paycheck still but that will definitely start helping to get things in order. So it's a positive life change, from her just waiting tables for a living. It's also teaching her more, which could be beneficial to help take care of me.
The second way you guys saved me, was to be able to get supplies to stop.my feeding tube leaking. Yes, believe it or not, I had some more rough luck. My tube has three ends (one for balloon inflation/deflation, one for hospital use and one for our use) and it started leaking from the hospital use part. Luckily, because of your guys generosity I was able to get super glue, finger condoms, rubber bands and order a medical clamp online. This isn't a permanent solution but helps me avoid, the surgery at a hospital right now (which would be bad because of my immune system and the virus).
So that's two ways you guys directly saved me, not including prayers and solid advice.
The other good news is heart surgery, is something that can be avoided at the present time. After, getting a clearer MRI picture, they have decided, it's working better than originally thought. So for now I'm on some heart medication, so it should help avoid hospitals once again.
So those are definitely some of the positives and I greatly appreciate the help.
Now the other side of things.... My family doctor had to bring me in her vacant office to run some more blood work, there have been some things getting worse on my issues and I have a couple unavoidable surgeries coming. My body externally and internally has started to have severe cramps (think charlie horse) everywhere. I have started to fall quite regularly and I'm needing a little more care. The bad thing is with her job, I have to be left alone for long periods of time which is kind of hard and a bit scary. Hopefully, at some point my disability goes through, so maybe she can be home a little more, we can't afford her to be here more and still survive. Although, I'm considered disabled, I can't get my insurance to cover a person to be here to help with care, until the disability has been approved. So we just gotta kind of hang in there and hope we can make everything work. Everything, is backed up with the current pandemic, on disability approvals or so I was told on the phone.
The other downside, is despite my health and the worldwide pandemic, our landlords still expect us to move. It was super shocking as we just had renewed the lease in February but I was informed that things will get very, very, very, very ugly ( the landlord, who is supposed to be my friend said this while bobbing his head and his face turning red), if we do not move on the date they listed on the lease termination agreement (which is now only a couple weeks away). As they were our friends, we didn't get a written lease. So they are taking actions like it was only a month to month (I should've known better and gotten a written copy but thought they were true friends). He explained to me that they would've extended the date but he found out his job, isn't laying anyone off. So they can afford to lose the income they receive from us, for a period of time. If you think about it, basically they were gonna allow us to stay and pay them through the pandemic, if they were in trouble financially. However, since they aren't, now it's irrelevant. I feel the real reason they changed their mind, is they now know I won't be able to physically take care of the property. It's sad and I thought for sure that they would reconsider with everything going on, they would extend the move out date but instead I was issued a threat. We have been desperately searching but it's hard to do with our financial situation. All we can do is pray, somehow my disability goes through and we get the stimulus support. I still can't fathom them expecting us to move at a time like this and it isn't helping my health but if this board did anything, it taught me to keep faith no matter what.
I just want to let you guys know without you, we would've never made it this far and you guys saved us and helped strengthen our faith. I can never repay all the kindness and care you guys gave. Thank you all, so very much.
We still have tough times ahead and a lot to figure out, that's why I kept delaying the update. I didn't want to share more bad news after everything you all have done. Just know we appreciate everything and I hope and pray you are all blessed in your lives. I will give more updates as things go along and as long as I'm able. Thank you again to my Big Blue family.
So to start, I'm gonna explain how you guys literally, saved me in a couple ways:
First, as you guys know my finances were exhausted and I could've never anticipated the generous people on here. We were able to buy groceries and supplies to survive, as well as lunches for her new job.
That's right, she got a job!!! Unfortunately, it wasn't with our friend here, she went to the interview but it appeared they were more in setting up mode, in this area. He did hire her but I guess he got busy with things and she didn't receive the follow up call. She happened to get a return call, from a job that does the same thing locally. So she is now taking care of sick people, with multiple disabilities which is very rewarding to her. She has already gotten several certifications and feels proud of what she is doing (which makes my heart warm up, to see her have some joy, when we have had tough times). So she has been working, we are waiting on her first paycheck still but that will definitely start helping to get things in order. So it's a positive life change, from her just waiting tables for a living. It's also teaching her more, which could be beneficial to help take care of me.
The second way you guys saved me, was to be able to get supplies to stop.my feeding tube leaking. Yes, believe it or not, I had some more rough luck. My tube has three ends (one for balloon inflation/deflation, one for hospital use and one for our use) and it started leaking from the hospital use part. Luckily, because of your guys generosity I was able to get super glue, finger condoms, rubber bands and order a medical clamp online. This isn't a permanent solution but helps me avoid, the surgery at a hospital right now (which would be bad because of my immune system and the virus).
So that's two ways you guys directly saved me, not including prayers and solid advice.
The other good news is heart surgery, is something that can be avoided at the present time. After, getting a clearer MRI picture, they have decided, it's working better than originally thought. So for now I'm on some heart medication, so it should help avoid hospitals once again.
So those are definitely some of the positives and I greatly appreciate the help.
Now the other side of things.... My family doctor had to bring me in her vacant office to run some more blood work, there have been some things getting worse on my issues and I have a couple unavoidable surgeries coming. My body externally and internally has started to have severe cramps (think charlie horse) everywhere. I have started to fall quite regularly and I'm needing a little more care. The bad thing is with her job, I have to be left alone for long periods of time which is kind of hard and a bit scary. Hopefully, at some point my disability goes through, so maybe she can be home a little more, we can't afford her to be here more and still survive. Although, I'm considered disabled, I can't get my insurance to cover a person to be here to help with care, until the disability has been approved. So we just gotta kind of hang in there and hope we can make everything work. Everything, is backed up with the current pandemic, on disability approvals or so I was told on the phone.
The other downside, is despite my health and the worldwide pandemic, our landlords still expect us to move. It was super shocking as we just had renewed the lease in February but I was informed that things will get very, very, very, very ugly ( the landlord, who is supposed to be my friend said this while bobbing his head and his face turning red), if we do not move on the date they listed on the lease termination agreement (which is now only a couple weeks away). As they were our friends, we didn't get a written lease. So they are taking actions like it was only a month to month (I should've known better and gotten a written copy but thought they were true friends). He explained to me that they would've extended the date but he found out his job, isn't laying anyone off. So they can afford to lose the income they receive from us, for a period of time. If you think about it, basically they were gonna allow us to stay and pay them through the pandemic, if they were in trouble financially. However, since they aren't, now it's irrelevant. I feel the real reason they changed their mind, is they now know I won't be able to physically take care of the property. It's sad and I thought for sure that they would reconsider with everything going on, they would extend the move out date but instead I was issued a threat. We have been desperately searching but it's hard to do with our financial situation. All we can do is pray, somehow my disability goes through and we get the stimulus support. I still can't fathom them expecting us to move at a time like this and it isn't helping my health but if this board did anything, it taught me to keep faith no matter what.
I just want to let you guys know without you, we would've never made it this far and you guys saved us and helped strengthen our faith. I can never repay all the kindness and care you guys gave. Thank you all, so very much.
We still have tough times ahead and a lot to figure out, that's why I kept delaying the update. I didn't want to share more bad news after everything you all have done. Just know we appreciate everything and I hope and pray you are all blessed in your lives. I will give more updates as things go along and as long as I'm able. Thank you again to my Big Blue family.
