Willy, you're way off on this one. To start with, 20 states don't ask you to register with a party. They are open states that whenever there is a primary you go vote and you tell them which ballot you want.
If you are gay, you are gay...doesn't matter if you entered into a heterosexual marriage or not. There is nothing subjective about it.
Actually, I'm not Fuzz. Just because those 20 states don't "ask" you to register with a party doesn't mean they aren't registered to "a party". That is irrelevant. Can't believe you'd bring that point up.
As for the gay thing. Before the SCOTUS overturned DOMA. You could not marry gay. You could marry man and woman, but you could not marry gay. Now, you could identify as gay, but you can't marry as gay. That wasn't my point. I'm not arguing the Science of it. Jesus Christ.